Category Archives: Change

Spring cleaning…


When most people think of spring cleaning, they are thinking of wiping down baseboards, rotating winter clothes to the back of the closet and cleaning out pantries.

Not me!

I’m not too concerned about the baseboards. I don’t mind the winter clothes being in my way and there’s not much in the pantry anyway.


I’m still working on spring cleaning!

You’ll notice a few changes here on The Imperfect Princess blog and hopefully they’re for the better. I made the switch from one platform to another and by doing so, there are some great new changes and perhaps some you liked before that aren’t here now. I’m still working on the fine details but have a look around and let me know if you see anything out of place!

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Now that the spring cleaning is out of the way, I’m hoping to snap back to regular posts. If you’ve been missing me, why don’t you revisit the last couple posts here and here to catch up :) More to come soon …



The Bible…

I’ve been watching The Bible miniseries on The History Channel.  Last night was week three of a five week series which is scheduled for a finale on Easter Sunday.  For what it’s worth, this is my review :)

I have really enjoyed seeing many of the stories come to life through this movie.  I would encourage anyone who has a desire to know more to watch it but at the same time, I would recommend you follow along in your Bible.  Being that it’s a 10-hour series, there’s no way everything can be fit in but in my opinion, some pretty big details have been left out or changed.

Truth holds that a book is almost always better than the movie and in this case, there’s no doubt THE book is best!

1 Thessalonians 5:21 says, “Test everything.  Hold on to the good.”

There are great things about this movie.  The fact that for the past three Sundays, it has had more viewers than anything and that it has had the most followers than any other show on The History Channel are both amazing things.  This film is reaching people.  It’s encouraging people to open their Bibles and read the Word of God.  It’s changing lives.  There’s no doubt that it has great potential to impact lives and steer them into a relationship with Christ.

The birth of Jesus was one of the most loved scenes from episode 3.  Many reviews from last night rave about how emotional that scene was and what peace was felt knowing our Messiah was here, to save us all.  There’s no doubt there is power in that scene.  Power to stir our emotions, to give us hope and strengthen our faith.

However, we must also be careful.  Considering the impact this film can have on people, Christians as well as non-believers and those of other religions, we have to be careful to be as accurate as possible.  Every wrong word and every inaccurate detail is being picked apart and criticized.  It creates doubt.  It justifies negative opinions.  God’s word has the power to change, but we do not have the right to change His Word.  It is God-breathed and while most will see past the discrepancies and hang on to the beauty of the story, we still have to be cautious in how we handle truth.  Because it is truth, we shouldn’t steer from it.  There is no need to.  The power is in the Word as it is.  We are not greater than God.  This is where my disappointment comes in.  Again, I encourage you to watch it but have your Bible handy, dig into God’s word for yourself, find the truth written in the pages of your Bible and grow in your relationship with Christ.

I won’t hash out all the discrepancies but some things that really stood out to me are:

Many of the emotional and spiritual connections these people had are lost in the midst of chaos and fighting.  If you’ve read anything from the actual Bible, you know it’s not all sunshine and roses, but through the fighting and death are very intimate stories of hope, overcoming despair, faith and redemption.  In the film, these aspects seem to be on the back burner.

A lot of viewer reviews I’ve read are against the harsh violence.  Many people are afraid to let their children watch it.  I agree, the violence is very extreme in most scenes.  While there was in deed a lot of violence during those times and these places were filled with war and murder, those violent scenes tend to over shadow the intimate relationships with God.  Also, the film lacks explanations on much of the violence and fighting so viewers are left with the impression that God is mean and angry with very little positive light shed on Him.  So far there really hasn’t been any build up of His redemption, unconditional love, forgiveness, etc.  For new Christians or non-believers, this could be an unfortunate turn-off.

Perhaps instead of focusing on the violence, this could have been a great time to teach why there was suffering, why these people faced such difficult times.  These people were warned time after time to change their ways.  They were given numerous chances to turn from evil.  It’s like parent who disciplines their child.  Without discipline, they don’t learn.  We don’t want to have to punish or discipline our children but we do it because we want to teach them right and wrong.  God did not want these people to suffer but in order for them to learn, he had to intervene.  I won’t pretend to know all the answers but as a person who was once lost, it all makes so much sense now.  God never wants us to suffer but we have to learn and sometimes in order to learn lessons, we have to go through trials.

David (1 Samuel 16 – 1 Kings 2)
Psalm 23:4  Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me;  your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 

David wrote many prayers and songs.  He poured his heart out to God.  He cried out to Him, in desperation, despair and in times of joy.  His story lacks the servants heart, the heart he had for the Lord.  Most of what we see of David is Saul’s hate towards him, his betrayal towards Uriah and his affair with Bathsheba.  We see nothing about David’s relationship with his son, Absalom, who had murdered his other son, Amnon, over the rape of his daughter, Tamar.  Absalom fled and later returned only to be shunned by David.  Absalom later attempts to overthrow and assassinate him.  There is so much more to David’s story than what we see depicted in this film.  His family earns the title of dysfunctional in so many ways but through it all, David had a heart for the Lord.  Even through all his mistakes and shortcomings, the Lord loved David.  I highly encourage you to read more about David and study his relationship with the Lord.  We have much to learn from him, his mistakes, his inadequacies and his faith in God.

Samson and Delilah (Judges 16:17-18)
So he told her everything.  “No razor has ever been used on my head,” he said, “because I have been a Nazirite dedicated to God from my mother’s womb.  If my head were shaved, my strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as any other man.”

When Delilah saw that he had told her everything, she sent word to the rulers of the Philistines, “Come back once more; he has told me everything.”  So the rulers of the Philistines returned with the silver in their hands.  After putting him to sleep on her lap, she called for someone to shave off the seven braids of his hair, and so began to subdue him.  And his strength left him.

The film spends a good deal of time with Samson.  We learn about his first wife as well as his relationship with Delilah.  In the film, Delilah performs the act of cutting Samson’s hair.  While this may seem insignificant, in my opinion it bears a lot of significance.  For one, there’s a change in God’s word.  The Bible tells us that Delilah sent word and had the Philistines come and do the act of “shaving” Samson’s hair.  In my opinion, this shows Delilah’s power over not only Samson, but also the Philistines that they once again were willing to do as she has said.  The film also uses cutting instead of shaving and the cutting that takes place is near the shoulders, not anything like shaving.  Imagine a man who has lived all of his life with hair and in this situation, knows the significance and power in his hair.  Now, imagine the drama and devastation of losing it all – being shaved, bald.  It seems to carry a greater impact which is perhaps what makes it such a powerful story.  There was really no need for the producers to steer away from Scripture in this scene.

The Baptism of Jesus (Matthew 3:13-17)
Then Jesus came from Galilee to the Jordan to be baptized by John.  But John tried to deter him, saying, “I need to be baptized by you, and do you come to me?”

Jesus replied, “Let it be so now; it is proper for us to do this to fulfill all righteousness.”  Then John consented.

As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water.  At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on him.  And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.

In the film, they show the scene of Jesus walking down to John, being baptized and then as quick as the scene began, it’s over.  There was no view of Heaven, no spirit, no dove and no voice from God.  In my opinion, the spirit filled scene and love from God is a huge deal.  In the Bible, this is one of the most amazing images we have of the relationship between the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.  It’s in this moment that we hear God acknowledge His son.  To leave out this part not only takes away from the moment, but it takes God out of that scene.  Please read this story and draw your own image in your mind.  Think of how beautiful that scene could have been and while it may still impact some, think of how great the impact could have been had they chosen to follow God’s word in this scene.

Again, I wouldn’t say don’t watch it.  If it changes one life or encourages one person to dig deeper then it’s all worth it.  My hope is that it doesn’t turn people away from the Bible but instead brings them closer, into a deeper relationship with God.  No movie or person has the power to change any of us but God’s word has the power to change us all, if we let it!

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Now that I have you humming that little tune in your head (and if you’re not, click here and you will be!)…


Not the twenty-five cent kind of change.

Real change.

Different things.  Different life.  Different schedule.  Different routine.

And so on.


I’m sure I’ve probably written about this before but the past few weeks/months have brought on a lot of changes for me in many different areas of my life.

I am not a fan of change.

When I get comfy, I like to stay there.

Back in the fall, when I was going through Melissa Taylor’s online Bible study for Unglued, by Lysa TerKeurst, I came unglued. 

Our van of 4+ years had died.  We went out and bought a new van.  In the end, I have everything to be thankful for, nothing to be ungrateful about and yet I’m human and still fall short.  The point of that is, with a new van, came a monthly car payment which meant I somehow needed extra income which came with the idea of keeping a child which leads us to a handsome little man staying with me during the day, five days a week, which means change.

One little event, the death of an automobile, led to a complete change in my life.  I was comfortable.  Olivia and I had a routine.  I was perfectly content with my eleven year old van.  I didn’t need a new one.  I was happy spending day in and day out shopping with my toddler, going wherever the wind took us, lunch dates with friends, etc.

Now, my time is precious.  I have come to realize that all the time we spent doing nothing, was precious time.  Those are moments I will cherish forever because those are the days Olivia and I shared, just the two of us.

Now, don’t get my wrong … this new little guy, he’s great!  Not only is he a super snugglie three month old, but he’s cute to boot.  And to top it off, his mom and dad are pretty cool too.  So, we have this all worked out and I’m sure this is all part of God’s grander plan but my dislike of change has sure stirred up the emotions.

Yesterday, we took this fancy schmancy new van to the dealership to see if some awkward things could be fixed.  The answer was simply ,”No,” which of course led to me whining and ranting over what idiot designed such and such and did they test it before they … blah, blah and then it hit me …


“Who’s the idiot here?  You’re griping and complaining about a van that YOU picked out, that YOU decided to buy, that YOU thought would be great and that YOU failed to sit in the third row and see how comfy the very badly designed headrests felt.”

Duh, I, amidst the thoughts of anger, frustration, whining and complaining, came to the stark conclusion that I was the idiot.  I have no right to complain.  Who am I to complain?  I have a nice, new van and here I am complaining about it.  I bet my friend Christy, that gave up everything to move to Africa, would be sorely disappointed in my shallow behavior.

So, I realize now that change isn’t always bad.  Sure, my life has changed but along with it, some really great things have happened.  Change has led me to a whole new world of ladies, some from my very own church that until now, I haven’t had the opportunity to get to know.  A large group of us even went to see Anne Graham Lotz together and what an amazing time that was.  I was also invited to a lovely Valentine’s breakfast at a sweet friends home with a wonderful group of ladies and I had another invite to a dear friends church for a great evening of fun, fellowship and food.

And this little guy that has become a part of mine and Olivia’s day, well, I have really enjoyed getting to know him and his family.

I can’t tell you how many good things have come with change and perhaps that is because sometimes, we tend to focus on the bad.  I let the bad things outweigh the good when in fact, if I take the time to stop and look, the good things far outweigh the bad.

How do you handle change?  Does it get the best of you or do you roll with it and seek out the blessings that come from it?

James 1:17 says …

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.

For today, I am going to embrace the changes that come my way, finding the joy, the beauty in the changes and I find comfort and peace in knowing that our God is never changing. He is the same today, tomorrow and always.  His promises have withstood time.  His plans for me and for you are always the same.  What more could I ask for?!

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Love in Truth…

1 Corinthians 13:6
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 


Love does not delight in evil.
Love does not enjoy bringing misery to others. 
Love doesn’t find fulfillment in watching others fail.

As a woman, I can certainly tell you, gossip is an easy pit to fall into, both dishing it out and receiving it.  It’s a battle I have struggled with for years.

It’s almost as if our brains are wired to feel satisfied when others fall.  We find pleasure knowing someone else messed up.  It’s in some ways, comforting.  It makes us feel better about our own messy lives.

Does that make it okay?

No!  God says it’s wrong.

We all know gossip hurts.  It feels horrible on the receiving end.  Gossip has destroyed peoples lives.  It’s ruined marriages, crippled hearts, caused others to stumble.  It has led some to feel so awful about themselves, they were unable to face another day.  Yes, gossip can kill.

You wouldn’t think twice about convicting a murderer, would you?

And yet we do it regularly.  We find the next big story and can’t wait to share it with someone.  We want to be the first to tell it, like that will give us some kind of magic powers or put us on the holier than thou list.

Gossip spreads like a wildfire.  What may have started out as an innocent comment can quickly turn into a shameful story.  Words, tones and meanings can be mistaken and often are.

I have said things in the past, trying to work through my own thoughts and feelings over things and instead, having them shared with others as if I were bashing, gossiping, criticizing.

I have to choose to be even more careful with my words just to keep others from mistaking them.

It’s a choice we all have to make.  We can choose to drown ourselves in the evil of this world.  We can carry on the conversations that destroy peoples lives.

What if, instead of spouting the unknown or even the known, we decided to just stop and pray.  What if the next time the opportunity to tell a story about what so and so did, you prayed for them instead.

How would that change your heart?  

Would it change the world?  If we all made an effort to love in truth, could it change the world?

I believe it could.

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2012: A Year In Review…

 It’s been a roller coaster kind of year.  Our family has experienced many blessings while at the same time, we’ve faced many trials.  Through it all, we’ve grown closer together and closer to God.

My year began with turmoil between friends.  It was difficult facing the reality that relationships don’t always last forever.  I realized that I needed to put my focus on moving forward in my life, building and growing my relationship with Christ and let go of the life I was trying to hold on to.  My heart still aches for the losses but I know I am growing and going in the direction God has laid in front of me.

Our boys are doing great in school.  They both excel and we are very proud of their accomplishments.  Our oldest, Noah, enjoys Math, Spanish and Chess Club.  Math, Science and Soccer top the list for our second, Caleb.  Miss Olivia has several years before school begins but among her favorite daily activities are anything Dora, lots of dollhouse fun, drawing and writing.  She is quite the social butterfly and has most certainly never met a stranger.

In July, we faced our biggest struggle in years.  Our home was broken into while Tony was away at work and the kids and I were out with friends for a 4th of July celebration and fireworks.  We came home to broken doors, busted walls, shattered lamps, and many of our favorites taken.  One of those that I struggled with most was my laptop.  Most of you know my life revolves around my computer – both my work life with my photography business as well as my God called life with this blog.  I lost so much stuff and worried about the information someone else now had.  We got through it with no other explanation than God saw us through it.  I leaned on His word, prayed like crazy and found an overwhelming peace through it.  I won’t say it isn’t still hard.  I still struggle and worry but God has proven to be my Prince of Peace.  I don’t think I will ever get back to the stage where I’m not constantly checking doors and windows, hiding my pocket book and laptop in my own home and feeling just a lack of security.  It’s not a constant worry, but more of just a change in life.

We also faced mounting auto repair bills and the death of our beloved Minivan.  What, at first, seemed like the end of the world and led to one of my little mommy rants, soon turned into such a blessing from the Lord and I was quickly reminded that His plans are far better than my own.  We said goodbye to our Oldsmobile Silhouette and introduced an almost brand new Kia Sedona to our family.

And speaking of introducing newness to the family, we also added another family member this year.  After our break-in in July and a little convincing to Tony, we visited the local Animal Shelter.  While there, we fell in love with this quiet, sweet, beautiful Border Collie mix.  She’s been a great addition to the family (shy of all the hair!) and is quite vocal when she wants something!  She has made us all feel a little more secure here at home and for that, I am so thankful.  If we can survive the hair and daily vacuuming, I believe she will be our “fur”ever friend!

Throughout 2012, I had the opportunity to lead several evening classes at church.  I look forward to continuing with that in 2013.  It has been such a blessing to me.  I have learned so much through teaching and it’s only fueled the desire to continue pursuing writing, speaking and teaching.

A few weeks ago, my mom, Olivia and I, had the opportunity to visit my great aunt Henny.  She had been moved to Hospice House.  It was a great visit and her mind was as sharp as ever.  She loved on Olivia and what a joy it was to see the two of them together.  Last week, she earned her wings and we said goodbye to a strong, loving, beautiful woman!

Tony continues to work with the Fire Department.  He recently faced his toughest call of the year when a nine year old boy died in a house fire.  Please say a prayer for Lareik’s family as well as his school family and the emergency workers that responded.  

The boys and I spent an evening packing gifts for local families.  It’s part of an annual ministry ran through some folks from our church and a group called Toolin’ in Town.  Saturday morning the boys and I loaded up with many other volunteers and we distributed these toys to families in town.  I can’t even begin to tell you what a blessing it was to see the smiles on these kids faces.  Many of them won’t get anything more than the gifts we gave them.  What a joy it is to be a part of this and to know my boys are learning to not only help others, but to reach out to them with love, encouragement and understanding.  

My blog is growing and I hope that you have gained something through my year.  I know God has done a lot of work in me through this place.  I look forward to what God has in store for me in 2013.  I pray that I continue to grow closer to Him and seek Him with all my heart.  I pray that for you as well!

On top of the kids list wish list this Christmas are…

Olivia – Hello Kitty anything, Baby Alive walking baby, Fisher Price Loving Family Dollhouse
Caleb – Monopoly Millionaire, money & jeans
Noah – Tablet, money, phone

We’ll see tomorrow if they’ve all been good enough for their Christmas wishes.  I have a feeling they won’t be disappointed ;)

I’m signing off until 2013 but first…

Some of my personal favorite posts from the blog this year:

Who You Are
The Not So Lovely Truth About Baggage
Heart for Home
Security in Christ
Some Things Never Change
Role Model Wife
My Own Prison
All Glued Together
Baby Steps

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Some things never change…

Your love never fails
never gives up
never runs out on me.

If you haven’t heard that awesome song by Jesus Culture, please go listen to it.

Soak in the words.

Rejoice in His love for you.

One thing remains…

He will never give up on you!

During this weeks precept Bible study we learned there are three things that will never change;  Truth about God, Word of God, Truth about You!

Truth about God
Hebrews 13:8  Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.

Word of God
Psalm 119:89  Your word, Lord, is eternal;  it stands firm in the heavens.

Truth about You
Romans 8:38-39  For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present, the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. 

Nothing we do will change His love for us.
Nothing from our past, present or future will make Him love us less.
Nothing in His word will ever change.

Our God will be our God, the one true God, for all time! 

What a wonderful promise of security for us to embrace!

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