First off, I want to give a big shout out to all the moms out there – new moms, old moms, want-to-be moms, stepmoms, adoptive moms, foster moms, fill-in moms, angel moms, and any other moms. Praise God for giving you hearts filled with joy in the midst of trials, minds filled with strength and hope in the midst of chaos and panic, courage and faith in the midst of worry and fear. Thank you for doing the best job you could do – a job only a mother can do!
Now that you’re feeling like you’ve accomplished something, many of you are really a mess, right?
You’re not just worn, you’re exhausted.
You’re desperate for a potty break alone.
You long for a phone call that doesn’t sound like an all call to the screams and cries of toddlers and teens.
You’re heart is full for your babies and children but is it full for you? And I’m not just talking to the younger moms. I’m talking to you older moms who’s kids are either soon to move into adulthood or perhaps already there. Your hearts are full too.
Full of worry.
Full of questions.
Full of doubt.
Full of concern.
Full of hope for their future.
Full of love.
I’m figuring out, this being a mom thing brings on a whole world of emotions all on its own. As if we women didn’t have enough emotions already?! Thanks, Eve ;)
Listen up, moms. Stop. Right now.
Stop the worrying.
Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? Matthew 6:27
Think back to when you were younger. Did YOU make any dumb decisions? Do YOU make any bad choices? I doubt anyone can answer that truthfully with a, “No!” Did you learn from your mistakes? Did you grow through them?
So will your kids!
The message I want to share with you today is to stop worrying and simply love them, unconditionally. Support them. Encourage them. Believe them and believe in them. Talk to them and listen to them. Share your faults and failures and let them know that we are all human. Tell them it’s okay to make mistakes. Remind them that you will love them no matter what. Let them know that God will love them because He wants to, not because of their good deeds or perfections. Teach them that’s no excuse for sin, but to seek God in their sin, to turn to Him in the midst of their failures, in the middles of their storms, to seek Him with all their hearts.
And, if they aren’t there yet, be patient. How patient has God been with you? Don’t judge them or turn away from them. Love them. Pray for them. Let them know that a mother’s love is only second best to God’s love. Prove to them that you are their biggest fan, that you will love and protect them at any cost but also let them know that God is first in your life. Lead by example.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7
And moms, you’re going to fail.
You’re not always going to make the right choice or the best decisions, either. And just as you’re patient with your children, God is patient with you. He understands we make messes and He’s ready to help clean them up. Let Him.
Stop trying to write their story. Give the pen back to God. He’s writing your story and theirs. Let Him work in their lives and instead of trying to write their story, simply be a part of it…a good part, the part God intended for you to be. He intended for you to shower them with love and praise, to encourage them, to protect them, to support them, to believe them, to love them. Do your part and leave the rest to God.
He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. Ecclesiastes 3:11
You are being made new and so are they. Every day is another part of the story. Every triumph and trial is another part of the story. Let Him be your author and theirs. It won’t always be easy but it will be worth it!