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Today’s Three T’s for Tueday: Tackling Tough Topics is…
Sins of the tongue: Gossip
What are your thought on gossip?
Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
Gossip can have devastating effects on a persons life. The beginning of gossip can seem very innocent, but after, it spreads like wildfire through a group of people, it changes, comes out fierce, out of control. What began as a simple little spark can turn into a full blown inferno.
In a recent Bible study on the book Proverbs, one suggestion from Author, Wendy Blight, on the topic of gossip was, asking a set of questions before choosing to talk about something or someone:
Is it helpful?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
Is it true?
If you can answer yes to all of those, then there’s probably no harm in discussing it but what if you answered no?
We need to carefully think about the things we are saying. Our words are so powerful. We can crush spirits and break hearts simply by the words we choose to speak. At the same time, we have the power to encourage, support and love through those very same words. It’s a choice we are given and not a choice that always comes easy.
For me, gossip has been a struggle. It’s something I have to work very hard at to avoid. In recent months, I have felt very strong convictions about the words I use, what I say and when I say them. I have made plenty of mistakes with my words but thankfully am learning to hold my tongue, that I don’t always have to have something to say.
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of the body. Proverbs 26:22
A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret. Proverbs 11:13
A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much. Proverbs 20:19
A prudent man keeps his knowledge to himself, but the heart of fools blurts out folly. Proverbs 12:23
Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. Proverbs 16:24
Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble. Proverbs 21:23
The Bible is very clear about how powerful our words are. There are many verses that refer to taming our tongue, choosing our words carefully, avoiding gossip and using our words to build up, encourage, love and teach one another.
I don’t always get it right and sometimes I let gossip win. My prayer is that you and I will overcome this battle with love in our hearts, knowing that we have the choice to either tear someone down or build them up.
Which will you choose?
Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. Colossians 4:6